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14-03-2016, 09:11 PM | #361 | |||
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And Isn't it nice when the police respect you and treat you accordingly, taking extenuating circumstances into account! They could have made last nite a living hell for you if they treated you like just another trouble maker! And once again I take my hat off too you! Going thru what you do every day and still surviving to fight and pick yourself up everyday! As touched on earlier...I now insist that what you go thru makes what I fight thru, feel a bit insignificant! (I know, not the thing to be laughing about but hey..) Might look up that DBT...sounds interesting. |
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15-03-2016, 12:57 AM | #362 | |||
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struggling, than its simply a fight, and since our thresholds are all at different hights, please do not let people make you feel weak for not overcoming it, this is what set me back 20 plus years in admitting i actually have a probem coping instead of trying to fit in and consequently being getting labels that mad me invert more into depression, if could of known then what i know now, well i would of proudly worn the correct lable and achieved sooner results in bettering my lifestyle (i hope that would of been the case, you need good people to help cause lone is 2 steps forward and slide back on ya behind )
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15-03-2016, 08:17 AM | #363 | ||
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16-03-2016, 03:46 PM | #364 | ||
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Been feeling really bad the last few days, keep thinking about if this is all my life is at, get up, work, come home, see kids for 1 hour, sleep, repeat.
I have a good wife and 2 sons and still not happy with anything, been actually thinking about checking myself into somewhere just to have a break from life. This is terrible, feels like my head is going to explode.
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16-03-2016, 03:49 PM | #365 | ||
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It's not you mate, I reckon its a symptom of a societal problem; people weren't meant to be mindless drones driven by endless consumerism.
Find yourself, break out of the matrix and you'll be on the way to recovery. It's something I'm battling with as well. |
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16-03-2016, 04:12 PM | #366 | ||
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I try so many times, then I stop and think hang on a minute how am I going to support my kids..and repeat the process again and again. I come up with the weirdest things to get time off..and when I get a day off I feel normal again.
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16-03-2016, 04:16 PM | #367 | |||
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Back at work now, but in a much better headspace and feeling positive about life again. Sometimes it's important to do what YOU want and need, to break that cycle of feeling like you're just going through the motions. |
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16-03-2016, 04:38 PM | #368 | |||
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If you're earning a packet to maintain an expensive lifestyle, ask yourself if it is necessary. If you're constantly buying new things to fill a hole, ask why? Just talk to yourself honestly. |
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16-03-2016, 10:11 PM | #370 | |||
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To KaniSS, if you are unable to get any time off till October, don't see that as a negative. It just means you have 6-7 months to plan what you want to do, get excited about a trip somewhere, it doesn't have to be expensive, plan all the activities you will want to do, sights to see etc. This will give you something positive to look forward to and distract you from negative thoughts when you are on line checking out your destination. |
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17-03-2016, 08:26 AM | #371 | |||
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This is only a suggestion, if your boss is that bad as you doctor for a week off or more and get a doctors certificate. You're obviously run down and need a break. Only a suggestion that might get you through till October
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17-03-2016, 08:45 AM | #372 | ||
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I'd agree with what BLUEYBA said...if you're that run down and really struggling then I'd get your doctor to write you a certificate for some downtime. Our culture is extremely good at going "she'll be right" and just trudging on, but one thing I've learnt over the last year is that your mental health should be your number 1 priority in life. If your mental state isn't on point then everything else in life will suffer. Do what you need to in order to get back into a positive headspace bud. I highly recommend seeking out a decent Psychologist to work through things with (if you haven't already), as that can sometimes seriously help improve the way you process and deal with life events. The help I gained from working through my **** and resetting how I processed stuff was by far the most beneficial life change I made.
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17-03-2016, 08:59 AM | #373 | |||
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"she'll be right" "teaspoon of cement and harden the **** up" "don't worry it will pass" i've copped all that ****. i come from pommy stock so **** like this got shoved under the carpet and was like, doesn't exist. have a look into acupuncture to help balance things up. initial impression for me is it has helped a butt load, but, time will tell, as you know. i'm going thru a particularly bad patch with work at the moment (see the common theme here) and suprised i am making it thru.
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20-03-2016, 02:27 PM | #374 | ||
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Bit worn this week with yet another medication trial. after the last major crash when taken away by (1 in particular ) very professional and understanding police to the area mental health, so much to contribute for now sorry, but keep talking to each other, talk, breath , and do what you must to get proper help and support,
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25-03-2016, 08:58 AM | #375 | ||
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wow! after taking 4 diazepam to shut up the confusion that the end of a day on my new meds causes by around 2 -3pm .. is really trying my ability to cope, i fainted, yep fainted, fall down, hit head and wake from darkness, fainted, first time ever, gotten woozy or weak legged before, never hit the deck hard n not know it till i realise I'm rubbing my head n r now on the floor not cooking dinner, wow, before i diagnosed myself with a tumour, i thought I'd better read more about diazepam/Valium, oh! First Med I've taken that had Fainting in the side effect column (of late anyway, hard to remember too far back) anyway straight on phone to my psychiatrist and just made sure i explained my daily affected effects of new med he prescribed recently. now i personally had a problem with the ADDICTION FORMING part of diazepam as i never felt an instantaneous relief or shake or euphoria etc that i found in recreational drugs to be the addiction, ignorance. now i have been prescribed a non addiction forming sedative for that end of day fluster , if the theory of Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (a form of Cognitive Behavioural Therapy designed specifically for BPD) just isn't going to cut it on a certain day, and i feel like a new man in control of my life, for about 5 hours a day now n this IS well ...Exciting. i just may have that beer or coffee.. yeah best to avoid abuse of recreational activities, a no no n major sympton of BPD, apparently i wouldn't know haha, anywho just another reminder to jot every detail of a days outcome n discuss with therapist because meds aren't the answer if you can't use them for their sole purpose and not just because doc said take em, too many factors people too many, so bugger the boss or whatever you are stopping momentarily to get out ya pad n take note, cause that's what matters when the minds ill, noting the effects/affects of the med meant to aid you in coping, otherwise work/life, wont matter at all. wow deep, where's that beer...ah...coffee
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25-03-2016, 07:25 PM | #376 | ||
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^^^^mate I live on diazepam....Valium. Thank god I don't react to it like you did! I use it to survive my pain episodes as the rest of my pain meds are Slow Release, so I can get caught at very bad times occasionally!
I certainly am like you tho.....try my very hardest to take as little as possible. At one time the Valium was there just for the rare occasion! Now I've progressed well up the pain ladder! Does your head in trying to find good meds! I've also done a few trials and had not a lot of luck getting a better drug then what I use allready! |
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25-03-2016, 08:21 PM | #377 | ||
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Just found this thread and in away I was happy I did, as myself suffer depression for quite sometime its a long hard road and the first thing is you got to admit it to yourself you have it before you even have a chance to recover and for some people they never will sadly. I was one of them people when younger that couldn't understand people having it and my view was like ( For fuc! sake just snap out of it !!!!!!! ) but heavenly bid I have it now and how fuc!ing wrong I was , Its fair to say life hasn't been kind at times which has helped for this but its no excuse as everyone has them times .
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25-03-2016, 08:28 PM | #378 | ||
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I'm going to duck along to AA for the first time tonight. Yeah, it's Good Friday, but I believe it is still on.
Have been using grog at the end of a day just to stop thinking, to zone out. Hell, I've been off the grog for 3 days now no problem, but dreams are nightmares. Not happy with that. But one thing I think we can agree on, is that being an Alcoholic is more of a nightmare.
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25-03-2016, 11:03 PM | #379 | |||
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anxiety number 4 . was hit on the head at 23yo ,why i couldn't find as easy of way out for next 25 years of anxiety was becuase no body cared enough or were open enough to care, BPD makes that impossible to accept/wanting to accept/but mainly direct blame away from yourself creating a vicious life cycle if not diagnosed and understood or supported, alcoholism is easy to turn a blind eye to because, hey he/she's drunk, otherwise a nice person move on..type attitude. so getting hold of it and taking charge is tough and should be congratulated, on ya mate
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27-03-2016, 12:22 AM | #381 | ||
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A big big B'day cheer to a Beast of a car driven by a Legend of a man.. you know who are if ya wanna share.. I just want to say that this person whom I have not yet met in person. Well the words of support n want of understanding my BPD via firstly this thread then private message to recent phone text . has been more than any of my family members could of dreamt up.
I feel privileged and are grateful for such people in this world. GTT Happy B'day... hip hip don't slip
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04-04-2016, 10:14 AM | #383 | ||
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Well everyone hope you all are well to the best of abilities, I've had an I.E.D relapse on weekend, which i thought honestly had control over on my new meds but NO, it was out shopping pushing my mother in her wheelchair, simple cause, took mum to get shoes n 2 sales women chatting to each other, didn't even give us glance let alone ask if we needed help, well they and the rest of the mall found out that ths was unacceptable apparently as i dissociate and watch the embarrassment of irrational emotional reactive bombardment that ended with me sick as a dog in bed or last 3 days(longest it lasted in years) with 'black blood' this is how I've always described the after effect of such episode, flu like body aches attacking all my weak spots, brain, lungs, back, kidneys, knees and feet. I HAVD TO EXCEPT THAT PUBLIC CONTACT IS DEFINITELY HAS NO PART TO BE PLAYED IN THE REMAINDER OF MY LIFE. And that's hard to ponder when i thought i was getting better.
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Hi to those that know n understand, GTT, SYZ, 1TUFFUTE, MAYDAYA and all, just hoping you all have support from at least 1 good person that can give you something, just a few words even, that will in anyway help you get THAT day over and done with and hope you are strong enough to fight the next..but don't do it alone when we out here will givd an understanding ear without judgement of how small or simple it may seem.
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05-04-2016, 12:55 AM | #386 | |||
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I do agree though that some salespeople are ignorant about what true customer service is. Too many are either insufficiently well trained for their job, don't care enough to extend themselves a bit, or are simply slackers picking up a pay cheque. And as an older bloke, I'm getting sick of telling younger shop or bank staff etc how to do their jobs properly. —I guess I've turned into a grumpy old man? —Not really.
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Sorry to hear about your relapse Trejo bud...
Also Just another silly reminder for everyone...I know it's been said to death.....but I believe in it that much I feel it's worth bringing up again.....just in case some dismiss the thought without giving it a fair chance/thought first! GET A PUPPY(or a rescue dog even) Perhaps any pet.... Now I realize not everyone is a dog person....but from what my dogs do for me(full in house/bed dogs) and from what I've seen them do for my aunt who has terminal cancer, for my mum thru her hardships(her cat), and others in different community things I've seen around over the years.......dogs, and other pets can be an AMAZING source of focus for trouble minds. They can love you back unconditionally and become better friends/companions then even parents can with children. I've seen, I believe it, I live it! Anyway....I hope this thought comes across the right way.....in such a serious thread! |
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i carry a print out copy of, a brief summary of Borderline Personality Disorder, along with my medication and psychiatry records that initially was for the consideration of police and ambulance officers, but now seem to hand out the BPD brief to civies, be they the victim or witness of an episode, whether they want it or not lol ...like a near 6ft ..115kg... maniac roaring a spittle fueled apologetic rant, whilst throwing a couple of pages of printed text at you, isn't reason enough to be understanding. huh!! god bless em. though i will continue to explain to the rocket scientists behind the headsets at a maccas drive thru, the process of looking at the screen and placing items (referred to as The Order) that are displayed on the screen, into the brown paper bag, along with, more than needed usally when eating in store, NAPKINS! because I'm driving a car! and items are more likely to be spilt, due to inertia, children and/or just Male Generics!!!! arrrghhhhh,,,,,,! ok I'm fine, hope you are too
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Bingo, right there. Somethings got to change.
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