First impressions of single life (a short rant). - Page 2

MITCHAY · 10-07-2005, 09:20 PM

The problem with this chick is that my feelings have always been unconditional towards her. He only likes her when things go his way like screwing me over. He f**ked off for a couple of months, got a new girlfriend about 2 days later after they broke up the first time and generally didnt give a rats **** about her.

I was always there and looked after her even when they got together i was still commited to being her friend (mind you still treated her better than the boyfriend) and got it all shoved back in my face. Finally i said enough is enough. It just aint fair.

She has given everythn to the relationship to be treated like . Its funny though it wont last long. When you fight on a daily basis then it sure as hell wont. He ever does anything to hurt her he will seriously regret it considering the hell weve both been through because of it.

gtfpv · 10-07-2005, 09:43 PM

xdc 351 you have only been single for a month . my advice is to have some fun and get used to being single . do some courses like 1st aid . or volanteer work , get a hobby , and do all the things that you weren't allowed to do before. hang out with other single people preferably like yourself recently single and you never know . try travelling alone to find yourself agian.enjoy . but take it easy.

conordec · 10-07-2005, 10:56 PM

xdc why are you looking???!!?!?!!?

enjoy life a bit, do things you wouldn't usually do, start a running regime and stick to it. you may bump into someone interesting.
backpack i hear??? yeah, start in sydney and do Ozexperience up the coast to cairns... i did it in 98 and it rocked... cheap, cheerful and well, lets say "fun".
do things you wouldn't normally do, and don't get hung up on looking. stay away from bars and clubs, waste of time and money, and you'll only find people into that sort of crap.
don't look and you shall find!

trick_xd · 10-07-2005, 11:10 PM

and on the other hand there is plenty of ppl here in the forum for you to hook up with and head out for the night ROAD TRIP your single so you have no one to answer too . make a weekend trip and go meet some ppl on here from a diffrent town and head out to the pubs with them at the vey least your away from boring old home and your in a new town you never know it could be fun .

Shonky · 10-07-2005, 11:13 PM

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Originally Posted by xdc351:
after one month by myself...

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Originally Posted by Yummy Mummy:
being recently single...

Hint Hint! Wink Wink! Nudge Nudge!

paul7v7 · 10-07-2005, 11:15 PM

mate get out there and enjoy the single life for a while, just go out and enjoy life and do everything that you can. if you do meet someone then you do, don't think you need to. if it happens it happens.
sure after being single for a long time it does kinda suck, epscially when friends are getting married and can't go out anymore and you get that longing to have someone there. but anyways dude just don't stress, don't go looking at pubs and clubs cause they're not the right places, as others have said try the community events, back packing and those contiki tours.
goodluck anyways

Yummy Mummy · 10-07-2005, 11:19 PM

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Originally Posted by Young 'un

Hint Hint! Wink Wink! Nudge Nudge!

Definately no hint intended thankyou very much.

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I may be recently single, but have already met the most amazing man, funnily enough, when I wasnt even interested in looking for it.

Shonky · 10-07-2005, 11:24 PM

Hehe...

just goosin' around. Don't mind me!

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DOC · 10-07-2005, 11:26 PM

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Originally Posted by xdc351

Well, after one month by myself I just felt the urge to rant a little bit and hopefully get a few replies that might make me laugh a bit!

The nightclub scene is dead set the BIGGEST waste of time EVER. I'd forgotten how pathetic the whole thing was! Last night a mate got punched in the head by some meathead martial arts type bloke 5 times his size because he was trying to stop him snapping this little 18yo dude in half, reason? He didn't like the way he walked past. Security stood and watched the weak pricks. Luckily I was in another room and didn't see it happenen because I would have jumped in out of sheer stupidity and would have wound up with my mate in the hospital. This is just another night out. Great fun.

The chicks that go to these places must be insane too. I mean, the first hint their drunk and 35 slease bags are all over them. My ex went to a nightclub 2 weeks ago and got groped on the dancefloor. A couple of my female friends got bailed up in a corner by a few blokes too. Thats if their not complete bimbo's that can't get over how fantastic they are to even flirt. Safe to say I'm off nightclubs.

Tried the internet dating sites for about 20 seconds.... *I don't think so*. Found one good site but its harder to pickup than, say, a nightclub and 10x more guys pretending to be something they aint there too. Does anyone know where intelligent, beautiful ladies go out to? I swear I'm missing something here.

Well, that'll do me for the moment... what do you other single blokes reckon?

After every storm there is a rainbow

Xephon · 10-07-2005, 11:29 PM

One word of advice, don't go looking for love. If you do, you will write off many who could have made good friends.
I have been single for a year now. It's not too bad (and I have more money to spend on me!)

10-07-2005, 11:50 PM

Just bide your time, as you have not been single for long. Don't rush into a relationship to fill the void that is now there. Socialising with 'couple friends' is good, as is the uni idea.

Just be patient, and your perfect mate will come to you in the most unexpected place, when you aren't searching so hard.

XRQTR · 11-07-2005, 12:12 AM

You know what no amount of advice is gonna change your predicament, sorry to say, but one thing I have learned is that most girls still want that which they can no longer have and this blinds them quite often to that which is within their reach.

Then again it could just be the girls i meet lol

As for associating more with friends and their partners, sorry to say guys but this is a bad move in the beginning, maybe after you've moved on but generally these are the same people you may have hung around with when with your ex, so not so good IMO.

Now on to more important business, as has been obviously stated here by many of you their are a number of single people, someone suggested a road trip, sounds like a plan to me. Whats say we hit say Bendigo or Shepparton for a weekender, unless of course you need to get it passed your............... oh hang on , no need hehe. But again this sounds like a fair idea, any excuse to get away from reality for while.

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Anyone else thinking along these lines??

trick_xd · 11-07-2005, 12:45 AM

XRQTR Thats what im thinking
But wait i have a missers !!
its ok ill leave her behind

xdc351 · 11-07-2005, 12:53 AM

I'm not looking for love thats for sure. But I do have standards.... and drunk nightclub bimbo's just don't do it for me.

MITCHAY · 11-07-2005, 12:55 AM

Oh i also hate it when your good friends with a chick and then they say "oh i dont want to ruin our friendship if we f**k up" My understanding has always been that good relationships start from good friendships. Its one line in mind that i hate hearing.

Rodp · 11-07-2005, 07:12 AM

Embrace singledom. I've been single for about 2 years now and loving it. I have more money to spend on me, I can go out at any time to do whatever I want and get home whenever I want. I'm not subjected to those absolutely mindless boring things that women insist you do with them.. (would you like to go to a pottery exhibition with me? yes dear.... uhm NO!!!!) LOL.

Don't knock the drunken bimbos either, they serve their purpose!

Just bide your time, with the right attitude one day you'll bump into a woman that will just wow you and you'll have forgotten where you left all your old baggage.

bindi · 11-07-2005, 07:41 AM

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Originally Posted by Feathers

What Sydney cruises?
I didn't notice any on the Bathurst cruise??

Both of us, darling

EA2BA · 11-07-2005, 08:44 AM

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Originally Posted by xrgran

Just bide your time, as you have not been single for long. Don't rush into a relationship to fill the void that is now there. Socialising with 'couple friends' is good, as is the uni idea.

Just be patient, and your perfect mate will come to you in the most unexpected place, when you aren't searching so hard.

Exactley, you will find what you are looking for when you are not looking at all, just be smart enough to reliase the fact before you reliease you missed it.

FRDGAL · 11-07-2005, 09:23 AM

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Originally Posted by xrgran

Just bide your time, as you have not been single for long. Don't rush into a relationship to fill the void that is now there. Socialising with 'couple friends' is good, as is the uni idea.

Just be patient, and your perfect mate will come to you in the most unexpected place, when you aren't searching so hard.

That's pretty much what I was going to say..

Pilch · 11-07-2005, 09:41 AM

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Originally Posted by MITCHAY

I just take it as it is. If it happens then it does. Im happy with my life being single but admit i could be happier.

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if you chase it you never find it,do things for yourself and the rest will happen eventually.

^^^ I reckon the above two sum it up nicely, be happy and enjoy the freedom of being single. When the time comes you'll meet someone.... It's funny how the minute you're completely happy being single and don't care for looking for someone that someone comes along.

EL XR8 · 11-07-2005, 11:18 AM

Yep i agree as well,
I'm single and all the time, (like lately i've been looking for someone) you never seem to find them. But when you enjoy life and so on, they seem to find you. It's probably cause you might seem happier and not so 'down on your luck' when you're not searching.
I've noticed myself, that my car has received a lot more attention and money, which can be a good and bad thing. Haven't got a missus to spend it on, so......

Dave

MrSparkle · 11-07-2005, 12:22 PM

A quick visit to BSR HQ will cure what ails ya!

... or will it only make it worse?

4.9 EF Futura · 11-07-2005, 01:07 PM

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Originally Posted by MITCHAY

Oh i also hate it when your good friends with a chick and then they say "oh i dont want to ruin our friendship if we f**k up" My understanding has always been that good relationships start from good friendships. Its one line in mind that i hate hearing.

Huh, welcome to my world! Thankfully i've learnt the ability to sit back and have a laugh about it all (after a while, anyways).

It's an interesting thread guys. I've certainly done my dash with the 'need to be out on the town and ****ed as a rat to meet someone' philosophy. What a joke. But meeting women 'the old fashioned way' is fairly daunting...

It's tough out there...

I agree that single life has its benefits (supercharged falcons being one of them, lol)... but gets pretty lonely after a while.

pauljh74 · 11-07-2005, 01:38 PM

I've found the internet isn't a bad place to look. I went through match.com and dated 2 girls. One I just broke up with after seeing her for a year. It just didn't look like there was a future with that one. I suppose the thing is with the internet sites is you can get in contact with the type of girls who don't like nightclubs either. But they're hidden away in suburbia at home watching a video at home, or going to parties to socialise with friends, so you can't find them. You can get an idea what they're interested in before you decide to contact them. You don't have to blow your money buying her drinks while trying to chat her up and you don't have to go out until you both think you find each other suitable.

cogdoc · 11-07-2005, 04:20 PM

Some amazing advice. Seems we have all stories to tell...

The common thread seems to be "the more you look, the less you find". I agree. Who has ever decided to go out and get a "partner" and managed to find a class act in one night? I'm sure someone has fluked it, but not many. It truely does happen when you least expect it. Never when you really WANT it. Less IS more.

I think Pilch (?) nailed it when he said "be happy". There's the kicker. Happy people are attractive. Would you go over to the guy/girl that genuinely smiled at you, or the stunner that looked grumpy / ****ed off cause she had been single for a month and couldn't meet someone worthwhile? Even if you have to PRETEND to be happy, you will be more attractive. Try it. Plus remember EVERY chick you chat to has FRIENDS...

Only when you are truely happy with being by yourself, will you be ready for someone else. If you get into a relationship before this, you become dependant on the other person, and we all know the pain involved there when they move on.

Do the things you really enjoy, and things you would like to try. Funnily enough you will then meet people with similar interests. Nightclubs are good places to meet people that like nightclubs. Is this what you are after?

Finally are you really being honest with yourself, as far as being attractive is concerned? Are you in good shape, well groomed, balanced, interesting...all the things you want in a mate? I find I need to get my own house in order before anyone wants to come visit...and an interesting poll recently published in Men's Health showed that more women would choose "well groomed" over "in great shape". Interesting......

Feathers · 11-07-2005, 05:27 PM

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Originally Posted by bindi

Both of us, darling

But that gorgeous, wonderful, really tall guy who was with me is my boyfriend

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loxxr6 · 11-07-2005, 05:47 PM

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The nightclub scene is dead set the BIGGEST waste of time EVER. I'd forgotten how pathetic the whole thing was! Last night a mate got punched in the head by some meathead martial arts type bloke 5 times his size because he was trying to stop him snapping this little 18yo dude in half, reason? He didn't like the way he walked past. Security stood and watched the weak pricks. Luckily I was in another room and didn't see it happenen because I would have jumped in out of sheer stupidity and would have wound up with my mate in the hospital. This is just another night out. Great fun.

The chicks that go to these places must be insane too. I mean, the first hint their drunk and 35 slease bags are all over them. My ex went to a nightclub 2 weeks ago and got groped on the dancefloor. A couple of my female friends got bailed up in a corner by a few blokes too. Thats if their not complete bimbo's that can't get over how fantastic they are to even flirt. Safe to say I'm off nightclubs.

You're clearly going to the wrong clubs then.

Avoid pubs (ones that don't have anything to offer for females anyway). Venues which are geared towards heavy drinking rather than chemical abuse attract fights.

However not everyone that goes to clubs that doesn't drink is a drug user. Whilst other people may do it around you, there'll be plenty of people that won't and will appreciate that. You'll look like a better proposition.

Picking up in clubs is about confidence and enjoying yourself. If you go out looking, you'll prob go home (and end up batting). Go out to enjoy yourself foremost. Try different places.

And don't miss opportunities. He who hesitates, masturbates.

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Tried the internet dating sites for about 20 seconds.... *I don't think so*. Found one good site but its harder to pickup than, say, a nightclub and 10x more guys pretending to be something they aint there too. Does anyone know where intelligent, beautiful ladies go out to? I swear I'm missing something here.

Dude, net dating is the best form of shopping. You just gotta get the technique down and make sure you're looking at some of the better sites. For example, whilst you prob can pick up off adultfriendfinder it's prob not gonna be the chick you're after for the long term lol. Net dating does work. If I can, anyone can haha.

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Well, that'll do me for the moment... what do you other single blokes reckon?

Being single is fine as long as you're getting some. If not it can suck.

Have you tried the speed dating thing where they hook you up with different chicks for xx amount of minutes and you chat? At the end of the night you put your name down for the chick(s) you like and if they are interested they swap your details with them. Its not too uncomfortable coz its only a few minutes with each person.

Failing that, are their no opportunities where you work ? No hot staff to flirt with haha.

bindi · 11-07-2005, 07:37 PM

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Originally Posted by Feathers

But that gorgeous, wonderful, really tall guy who was with me is my boyfriend

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Yeah I know, and I'm married

I was just saying that beautiful women hang around ff.au cruises. He didn't specify SINGLE in that particular sentence is all

b2tf · 11-07-2005, 07:51 PM

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Originally Posted by loxxr6

He who hesitates, masturbates.

LMAO!

Between this thread and the one about the vinyl lesbian, I can see Im going to have to arrange an FFAU Dating Tent for the All Ford Day.

*rayman* · 11-07-2005, 08:29 PM

a friend and i got fed up with trying to find nice girls here... so we made our own website to make things easier

(fringe benefits for us as admins, and we make money from it too)

It's coming along nicely, www.townsvillesingles.com for anyone in townsville, check it out.....

others are welcome to have a squiz aswell....

its a little different to most introduction agencies though.....