Relationship Breakup Saviour - Page 2

KW XRT · 16-04-2008, 03:25 PM

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Originally Posted by Barry_v

mine takes ages to get ready to go anywhere, is moody, takes all my money and always starts a fight where it will cause maximum embarrassment to me. sometimes i get so upset I have to park her in the shed and go spend some time with my girlfriend ;)

Nice thoughts there Barry.Makes alot of sense wish I had of kept that naive cAr thoughts instead of longing for the V/Dub bonnet would have a shi t load of cash by now. Scored 3 great kids by accident spose.

cheers for the thoughts anyway.

All the best Tadka hope you stumble across miss totally F/able and she asks you to comfort her or win the lotto which ever you prefer.

cheers

Ringo · 16-04-2008, 04:44 PM

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Originally Posted by TadKa

...... I'm just wondering if I'll have commitment issues next time I get in a relationship. I wouldnt want to 'invest' in another relationship with 'miss right' only to have it end badly......

Tadka - you never get rewards without risk but this is a decision you can make down the track when you have someone in mind and can ask yourself the question of if its worth it or not...don't dwell on this shiet now...just compounds the issues on your mind.

The ex girlfriend (aka 'Miss Needy') scarred me badly and I remember after meeting Mrs Ringo a voice in my head asking if I wanted to potentially got on another relationship rollercoater that may end in disaster.

I then made a decision that I wasn't about to let my relationship with Mrs Ringo not reach its full potential because of me holding back because I was worried about getting the same rubbish that 'Miss Needy' pulled on me. If I did that it was going to mean that 'Miss Needy' would have won.....again.

InfernoSR · 16-04-2008, 05:02 PM

The only piece of advise i can offer is to not expect someone to come along straight away... the ones that you find right away are also problem makers... give it some time, and the better ones become more obvious...

Booka · 16-04-2008, 05:23 PM

I know this may sound off but... when i had this same problen after 2 years i went shooting and it helped, now i just go jump in the car (with the ol man) and go bush or go " hooning" around with some good music going..... Sorry to hear this mate, and Chin up all will get better

Booka

jeremyevans · 16-04-2008, 08:55 PM

my dad always used to say to me, to get over an old girlfriend, you have to get on top of a new one.

i'm 44 next month and have had my fair share of bad luck with the ladies. but i am having the time of my life now.

it is hard breaking up with a loved one and a part of you seems to die inside and you're grieving for that part. but with time (and the support of good friends and family- you will move on- and be a better person for it.) you will start to re-build your confidence and when that newfound confidence emerges to the surface. you watch the people queing up to take you on a date.

the most hurtful thing that was said to me a few years back was 'i love you- but iam not in love with you.'

well a year later, she contacted me and said she had made a mistake- sorry love you're used goods.

Cam · 16-04-2008, 09:15 PM

mate i feel your pain, as i am sure 99.9% of the people here do

When i broke up with my ex it was the normal shattered dreams of the future life you'd planned etc etc. It's never an easy thing to get over, but there is always a light!

Funnily enough at the same time a mate also broke up with his missus.
We both vowed to enjoy the freedom! Go out midweek and have some beers with mates, go out and chat up randoms at clubs for the hell of it, spend your money on whatever the hell you want, p155 on the toilet seat, drink from the milk carton and whatever else takes your fancy! You will find that any sadness is soon replaced by thoughts of feeling like a 18 year old thats free to do whatever you want!

Enjoy that time like its your last day as a single man, and another one will come your way.
I had 4 months of living up the single life, and i loved it! Thinking i'd be happy to be single for life I then, by pure accident, met another girl. Here i was enjoying the single life I'd forgotten all about! Oh well..

Number one rule - SAY NO TO EX SEX - It's a recipie for nothing more then disaster in the longrun!

Good luck mate, look back at this thread in a couple of months time and let us know how your outlook has changed

jeremyevans · 16-04-2008, 09:23 PM

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Originally Posted by Cam

mate i feel your pain, as i am sure 99.9% of the people here do

When i broke up with my ex it was the normal shattered dreams of the future life you'd planned etc etc. It's never an easy thing to get over, but there is always a light!

Funnily enough at the same time a mate also broke up with his missus.
We both vowed to enjoy the freedom! Go out midweek and have some beers with mates, go out and chat up randoms at clubs for the hell of it, spend your money on whatever the hell you want, p155 on the toilet seat, drink from the milk carton and whatever else takes your fancy! You will find that any sadness is soon replaced by thoughts of feeling like a 18 year old thats free to do whatever you want!

Enjoy that time like its your last day as a single man, and another one will come your way.
I had 4 months of living up the single life, and i loved it! Thinking i'd be happy to be single for life I then, by pure accident, met another girl. Here i was enjoying the single life I'd forgotten all about! Oh well..

Number one rule - SAY NO TO EX SEX - It's a recipie for nothing more then disaster in the longrun!

Good luck mate, look back at this thread in a couple of months time and let us know how your outlook has changed

here,here- totally agree.

fpr_esp · 16-04-2008, 09:53 PM

a call to an escort agency makes me forget.

fpr_esp · 16-04-2008, 09:54 PM

a call to my regular escort agency does the trick for me.

InfernoSR · 17-04-2008, 12:42 PM

Always think that you've been given a chance once before and that there are more chances out there for someone looking for commitment...

As for me... once again i've been rejected by someone special just moments ago... i just dont get given a chance... and have only been in a relationship thats lasted 7 days... not 7 years... so i take my hat off to you for having pretty decent run...

Fev · 17-04-2008, 01:04 PM

i think every car enthusiast when they're down hops in their car and procedes to increase the fuel consumption three fold.. I do... lol

Fev · 17-04-2008, 01:05 PM

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Originally Posted by Cam

mate i feel your pain, as i am sure 99.9% of the people here do

When i broke up with my ex it was the normal shattered dreams of the future life you'd planned etc etc. It's never an easy thing to get over, but there is always a light!

Funnily enough at the same time a mate also broke up with his missus.
We both vowed to enjoy the freedom! Go out midweek and have some beers with mates, go out and chat up randoms at clubs for the hell of it, spend your money on whatever the hell you want, p155 on the toilet seat, drink from the milk carton and whatever else takes your fancy! You will find that any sadness is soon replaced by thoughts of feeling like a 18 year old thats free to do whatever you want!

Enjoy that time like its your last day as a single man, and another one will come your way.
I had 4 months of living up the single life, and i loved it! Thinking i'd be happy to be single for life I then, by pure accident, met another girl. Here i was enjoying the single life I'd forgotten all about! Oh well..

Number one rule - SAY NO TO EX SEX - It's a recipie for nothing more then disaster in the longrun!

Good luck mate, look back at this thread in a couple of months time and let us know how your outlook has changed

i havnt been single since i was 15(same girl, over 4 years now) so i havnt felt that..

StookEB · 17-04-2008, 04:00 PM

Well I've always been single (I'm currently 21) and to tell you the truth I dont really care if I meet someone or not. For some reason I've never taken it that far with a lady (relationship wise I mean), its quite weird when I look back over my few years.
HA the joys of a small country town.
I have been hurt by someone I care about, but it wouldnt have been anything like breaking up with a girl after 7 years.
Good Luck Mate.

TadKa · 17-04-2008, 04:42 PM

Ahh well, me and 2 mates are getting the keys to a new place tomorrow so It'll finally be over. I not really a very emotional guy but I can't believe how this has affected me.

I sold my old ED i had in the backyard last night. Thats a bit sad too. my first car I bought in 2000. I hadn't started it up for a year. A guy bought a battery round. she fired up no worries and drove it off. I was impressed.

Theres some good websites for anyone else in a similar situation with breakup or depression
http://www.helpguide.org/mental/copi...ip_breakup.htm
www.beyondblue.org.au

Probably best to avoid
www.getyourexbacknow.com
www.getrevengeonyourex.com

Shaggzy · 17-04-2008, 05:00 PM

I broke up with my gf of 2 years the other month. At first i was feeling down and stuff but i am alot closer to all my mates now cause i can spend alot more more time with them and now im enjoying life a hell of alot more and almost ready to start over with another lovely young lady!!
Just got out and keep yourself occupied so you dont think about them flat out!!
GOOD LUCK

Cam · 17-04-2008, 05:22 PM

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Originally Posted by Fev

i havnt been single since i was 15(same girl, over 4 years now) so i havnt felt that..

All the more reason to go out there and enjoy it brother, i know it seems like you'll never recover, but you will, and you'll come back better then ever :-)

Bucket · 17-04-2008, 06:54 PM

Yea mate...I thought I'd have commitment Issues too- I was scared to get into another relationship for just having to go through the motions of another break up but if thats the way you always think, you'll never go forward.
When you find the right girl, you will will be determined to make it work- thats what happens when you fall for someone

...Well thats what happened with me.
My Ex Hurt me so much and in addition she would call me from time to time to see how I was...then, when I toughened up, I called to wish Her happy birthday from Malaysia when I was there with work

I guess that was my way of saying, yea I moved on and I'm doing fine!
fast forward a year and I found an awesome girl...and put it this way...when you find them- you wont give a damn about being hurt, because the chance of happiness out weighs the fear of being hurt

FRDGAL · 18-04-2008, 02:36 AM

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Originally Posted by FRDGAL

Truth is, I'm devastated over with my break up with RspecAU

Arrgghhh change that to read 'i was' devastated... but anyway, Tadka, I just realised that no one has actually asked whether you want to work things out with her or even if it's a possibility. Just thought I'd ask lol.

**Charliewool** · 18-04-2008, 07:26 AM

The Journey of Man

When I was 14, I hoped that one day I would have a girlfriend.

When I was 16 I got a girlfriend, but there was no passion, so I decided I needed a passionate girl with a zest for life.

In college I dated a passionate girl, but she was too emotional. Everything was an emergency; she was a drama queen, cried all the time and threatened suicide. So I decided I needed a girl with stability.

When I was 25 I found a very stable girl but she was boring. She was totally predictable and never got excited about anything. Life became so dull that I decided that I needed a girl with some excitement.

When I was 28 I found an exciting girl, but I couldn't keep up with her. She rushed from one thing to another, never settling on anything. She did mad impetuous things and made me miserable as often as happy. She was great fun initially and very energetic, but had no direction. So I decided to find a girl with some real ambition.

When I turned 31, I found a smart ambitious girl with her feet planted firmly on the ground and married her. She was so ambitious that she divorced me and took everything I owned.

I am now older and wiser, and am looking for a girl with big tits.

TadKa · 18-04-2008, 09:02 AM

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Originally Posted by FRDGAL

Arrgghhh change that to read 'i was' devastated... but anyway, Tadka, I just realised that no one has actually asked whether you want to work things out with her or even if it's a possibility. Just thought I'd ask lol.

I've tried and given her every chance. She is quite a strong willed business orientated girl, and maybe a little stubborn. She has made up her mind and made it clear she doesn't want to work things out. When I realised where we were heading before we broke up I suggested if there was something wrong we get counselling. I even wasted 50 bucks on flowers (that I ended up throwing into a wall when she dumped me). I honestly haven't done anything wrong. and when we were together we were a very close couple. but I gave her plenty of space and time when she was involved in other things like work or hobbies. The only other person involved is her Business parter who she has been working very closely with over the last month or two. He is married with kids though and I do trust that there is nothing going on. When I think about it they did go to Sydney for a weekend 2 weeks ago and again last thursday (we broke up on friday). They are going to Perth for two weeks next month. It probably sounds bad but I really don't think there is anything going on.

ms700 · 18-04-2008, 09:19 AM

Build a bridge champ, and reinforce it with some I beams from BHP, and get over it quicksmart!

The sooner your thoughts dont involve the ex one bit, the better you'll be.

It doesnt matter if she was cheating or not, have some time for yourself and your mates for the time being. Things happen for a reason!

Scott · 18-04-2008, 09:26 AM

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Originally Posted by charliewool

I am now older and wiser, and am looking for a girl with big tits.

May have just found my new sig

TadKa, you're young at ~25. This is a good thing - as has been said, you could have got married and had kids. Luckily didn't and now you are a free man at 25 so go and get happy. At your age and single, you are in a prime position to have a ball, still save like a demon (you will have more money than you ever did before which is a bonus) and grab a few strays to keep you smiling.

You obviously needed a second chance at "couple lilfe", be thankful you got it at your age. From my keyboard, you're a lucky fella.

XR6_661 · 18-04-2008, 09:40 AM

I recently became single (With someone new now haha)

But seriously man, go out and play the field, don't dwell on stuff, you're only hurting yourself by the sounds of things! Take a leaf out of my book and go and hook up with as many girls as you can. It'll make you feel better. Works for me.

kyro_02 · 18-04-2008, 09:56 AM

i've just got myself into a relationship, but after 2 weeks i'm starting to feel i'm losing interest in her...

some things i get annoyed about:
wont see her for 2 days, then see her for an hour, then not for another 2 days.. she doesn't work, and gets free fuel.. and lives 20 mins away, so i don't understand.

has time for everyone else, except for me, like she has time to go visit her X boyfriend, take her other mates out, offer her X boyfriend over for dinner, but not me? lol (well, atleast she told me about it! like siiigh)

also shes going out with all her mates tonight, but wait, she never asked me if i'd like to come!

i don't care anymore really, its doing my head in thinking about it

Scott · 18-04-2008, 09:58 AM

^^ meh, 2 weeks?? Just keep her on the string whilst you find another one. What's good for the goose.....

XR6_661 · 18-04-2008, 10:08 AM

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Originally Posted by kyro_02

i've just got myself into a relationship, but after 2 weeks i'm starting to feel i'm losing interest in her...

some things i get annoyed about:
wont see her for 2 days, then see her for an hour, then not for another 2 days.. she doesn't work, and gets free fuel.. and lives 20 mins away, so i don't understand.

has time for everyone else, except for me, like she has time to go visit her X boyfriend, take her other mates out, offer her X boyfriend over for dinner, but not me? lol (well, atleast she told me about it! like siiigh)

also shes going out with all her mates tonight, but wait, she never asked me if i'd like to come!

i don't care anymore really, its doing my head in thinking about it

Dude she is doing that after 2 weeks? Get in first before she does and ditch her.

GT0132 · 18-04-2008, 10:30 AM

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Originally Posted by kyro_02

i've just got myself into a relationship, but after 2 weeks i'm starting to feel i'm losing interest in her...

some things i get annoyed about:
wont see her for 2 days, then see her for an hour, then not for another 2 days.. she doesn't work, and gets free fuel.. and lives 20 mins away, so i don't understand.

has time for everyone else, except for me, like she has time to go visit her X boyfriend, take her other mates out, offer her X boyfriend over for dinner, but not me? lol (well, atleast she told me about it! like siiigh)

also shes going out with all her mates tonight, but wait, she never asked me if i'd like to come!

i don't care anymore really, its doing my head in thinking about it

Mate I'd give that one the big miss too....

kyro_02 · 18-04-2008, 04:37 PM

I think i'll message her tomorrow morning instead of tonight, where... she'll be drunk at at the pub". I'm going to ask her straight out, "will our relationship work" or to that affect. To be honest after waiting 4 hours for her to drive over like she said she would, I finally SMS her and ask her, "are you coming over... cause I gotta go out, soon."

So I patiently wait for a sms reply, instead.. she calls... "I'm sorry I kept you waiting, it took 2 hours for the bank to close my account, then another 2 hours to go to a friends house and get a cheque."

So as I am typing out this reply, she MSG'd me on msn, and it begins!

Anyway, so it starts....

She tell's me how difficult her life is, how her family need her (which I understand in her situation)
That she loved me the first time we met (I felt the same)
It shatters her when she can't come see me (Same)

She knows she is leading me on, I quote: "When I say i'll come and see you, then don't."

So as I type, then backspace, she replies "How come it say's your typing, then it stops??"
I say; "I don't know what to say"

I really don't...

Anyway, So she says "if there's someone else you're interested in, go for it, don't let me hold you back"

I knew exactly where this is going, or did I?

I tell her: "there's no one else except for you, I would never put you in that position because I wouldn't like to be in that position either..."
Then I say: "Unless of course, you have someone else"
She says: "theres no one else"

so anyways, after a 10 minute conversation she says she is crying, and she doesn't feel like she can go to the pub now.... 2 minutes go by.. and she soon types those dreaded words... a family friend of hers has arrived to take her to the pub.

In the end, such is life.... and wherever this relationship goes from now.. guess we'll have to wait and see...

I don't think i'd be this gutted if she atleast sent me an SMS to tell me she can't come past, as she was up this way to go to a friends place, and close her bank account. But I waited some what 4 hours; for her to tell me she wont be here!

XR6_661 · 18-04-2008, 04:40 PM

go out and shag other women instead of getting hung up on her...Don't waste ya life & time with people who aren't worth it mate.

I've been there way too many times.

Scott · 18-04-2008, 05:09 PM

Kyro, turn that frown upside down and don't be a clown. Use this one as a "tide me over". It's only a 2 week romance and at the end of the day, she started it. One in the hand is worth two in the bush.