my 10th wedding anniversary

blueoval · 15-02-2009, 12:42 PM

Hi guys,

It probably wouldn't interest some of you, but I just had my 10th wedding anniversary yesterday, and thought to myself, considering most today think marriage is over-rated, out dated, and just not worth it, how many others are enjoying a long and successful marriage around the same time frame as me or better?

I must admit, marriage is not an easy thing to maintain and keep happy, but the fruits that marriage brings is certainly worthwhile when you have a mate you not only live with but is your best friend and companion.

Id like to hear your success stories and ways in which you have kept your marriage alive and interesting. (keep it clean please) :P

Cookie-XR8 · 15-02-2009, 01:11 PM

my parents have been together for almost 30 years, ive been with my girl nearly a year, it suprises me how people can be together for so long,

gtxb67 · 15-02-2009, 01:12 PM

no real stories yet - only just under 3 years - but congratulations. that is a fantastic achievement and hopefully you have many more happy years together

Thornie · 15-02-2009, 02:38 PM

I've found that if you can both make it through hard and emotional times together your marriage should last a long time.

Bucknaked · 15-02-2009, 03:00 PM

I'm not married, but been with Julie 22 years. We also work together and have done for 15 years. So virtually, we are together 24 hours a day.

Theres no real secret to the relationship. We discuss anything and everything that impacts our personal life. Be open and honest, trust, have faith, respect and give as much as you get. It's 50/50, straight down the middle.

prydey · 15-02-2009, 03:13 PM

my 10th wedding anniversary was sept last year. we both have our moments but anyone who says they don't is a liar.

i'm happily married... or is that married and happy... nevermind

seriously i wouldn't change a thing.

Mr Hardware · 15-02-2009, 04:26 PM

Happily married here too. Mind you, i'm coming up to 10 months not ten years...

blueoval · 15-02-2009, 04:45 PM

thanks for your replies guys, its great to see some good examples of people making their relationships work.

I think its rare to see some marriages last 5 years let alone 30+. Those that stick out a relationship for as long as even 20 years should congratulated for their commitment.

Keep the good comments coming

gtxb67 · 15-02-2009, 05:52 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by blueoval

I think its rare to see some marriages last 5 years let alone 30+. Those that stick out a relationship for as long as even 20 years should congratulated for their commitment.

certainly over the last 20 years, it seems a marriage is considered successful if you last 7 years. that means yourselves and prydey and mrs. prydey have already had 1 1/2 successful marriages. it makes it more special when it is with the same person
cob 115 is up to 24 years i think. tha jack and geez louise are close to that too. i apologise to them for stealing their thunder, but they are amazing achievements. most people are too quick to walk away when it gets a little hard. it is great to see some people still valueing their vowells - credit must be given to all who have achieved 10+ years

blueoval · 15-02-2009, 06:00 PM

good points gtxb67, I agree. Its certainly a rarity these days for people to remain committed. All I can say for those still working at it, is keep trying and dont give up.

**DJM83** · 15-02-2009, 06:49 PM

Well im the opposite, i was with my girl for 8 years and we split just last week. Congrats to all though, all the best. Some work some dont

vanman_75 · 15-02-2009, 09:52 PM

my grand parents passed 75 years of marriage!!!! i only hope my poor wife doesnt have to put up with me for that long ,12 years in with 8 years of marital bliss ,took a long time to teach her to cook ,couldnt trade that in ,and because i annoy her so much i can go fishing whenever i want god bless her .its a pretty good place to be at least i wont be lonely when i get old !

eb_5litre · 15-02-2009, 10:03 PM

6 Years today for me with 3 kids (5, 3 and 1). Its definately not all roses everyday but its very much worth it. We separated for 7 months and just got back together.

Rob's 76 Effy · 15-02-2009, 10:09 PM

Been married for 22yrs and been with my missus since 84 and 4 kids later (all Boys), been through good times and bad, but our time together has just about run it's course, just sorting out the finer details of the seperation, not sure if i would go through the marriage bizzo again it would take one very special person to change my mind. Kudo's to all those that can go the distance

whiskieboy · 15-02-2009, 10:22 PM

We were married in 1978.. 1978. so how many people here were even borne then, seriously though we are still happily married it just doesnt seem that long ago, it just feels like a few years ago, albeit in black and white......

bf-xr8 · 15-02-2009, 10:33 PM

hey guys, i was born in 1971 and have been married for 16 years, we have had ups and downs ( mainly ups) have had beatiful children and still gong strong. we have actually been together for 19 years. still young and in love as the first day we met and will grow old together.

**FTE217** · 15-02-2009, 10:44 PM

Congrats blueoval its an amazing ride marriage !
I'll be celebrating 18yrs in March ! my wife and I have discussed for our 20th we will probably renew our vows just for an excuse for a great family party but importantly for our 3kids to see their parents enjoy the moment with them this time. (heck all mighty I hope I haven't put the wood on us )
I'm lucky I have been a selfish bugga over the years but I must be doing something right at times LOL.......
Best thing I do is everyday is a new day 110% and when I come home from work the minute I switch off the engine I'm in family mode and I just love seeing my 2youngest run down to the car to greet their Dad,money can't buy that feeling !!! and my wife is a big part of that ofcourse.

gtfpv · 15-02-2009, 11:02 PM

15 years for me . besides commenting on a great acheivement of logevity in a marraige, ask the long termers if they are happy. the results will be surprising. also ask anyone who has split up if they are happy, there is 2 questions, and the answer to both will be the same answer. now consider why people stay together. whats the lesser burden ??

Jason[98.EL] · 16-02-2009, 07:55 AM

9 yrs on the 26th this month for us

Jason

Cappy_Hamper · 16-02-2009, 10:18 AM

We got engaged to be married on Valentines Day 23 years ago, and we are coming up to 22 years married in November. My wife is my best friend and we have been through our ups and downs but its mostly smooth sailing now as we have both matured.
(her more than me

)
We married young (me 22 and her 21) and had kids straight away. This was good as I got to grow up with my kids...
Communication and patience is the best thing for marraige.

Well done to the OP and anyone else with a succecss story.

blueoval · 16-02-2009, 10:54 AM

Some fantastic results guys. Really good to hear some of your experiences.

My thoughts are with those who are struggling out there too. I hope you find happiness soon.

prydey · 16-02-2009, 02:02 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Cappy_Hamper

We married young (me 22 and her 21) and had kids straight away. This was good as I got to grow up with my kids...

thats the way it was with my parents and the trend has continued in the family. its a lot better for the kids too i reckon as they don't end up having old parents. good way to be all round.

Fev · 16-02-2009, 02:15 PM

congrats on the big 10 years man - i hope theres many many happy years to come

RG · 16-02-2009, 02:35 PM

Been with my better half for near on 9 years now, engaged for 8 1/2 of them too. Not bad considering we are only 26 & 27 now.

She lets me spend money on the car so she stays

Seriously (just in case she reads this) I couldn't imagine not being with her, we've had hard times but we've also had great times. The good times definitely outweigh the bad so all is well.

blueoval · 16-02-2009, 02:39 PM

Thanks for the comments fellas. Once again its great to see some nice experiences.

Love is hard enough to find, keeping that love is priceless.

Tribal · 16-02-2009, 02:49 PM

Coming up 11 years at the end of the month. Couple of kids (Boys - 8 & 4), few arguments and disagreements along the way... but all to be expected. My wife is the love of my life and I wouldn't want it any other way

:

Main thing is to have good communication and just keep talking, never stop talking - and then pretty soon she'll give in to what ever you want

alecrain · 16-02-2009, 02:55 PM

It's 11 years for me (4 years married) and we met in high school :-)

On our 10th anniversary we got matching tattoos

Geez Louise · 16-02-2009, 03:27 PM

Jack and I will have been married for 20 years on 21st March this year. We have been together since I was 13 and he was 15. I believe Cob115 and his wife Heather are the same.

I have said it before...will say it again....Anyone that can put up with me for that long is either

: or did something in a past life to tick someone off..

Only joking, love my Jack and we will be together until the day we die. We were lucky to meet each other so young...

Congrats to you and your wife Shav! I guess I better bring a bottle of Moet with me when I come over on the 28th then hey

blueoval · 16-02-2009, 03:44 PM

lol @ Colleen. We can both drink to that.

290v · 17-02-2009, 08:25 PM

Rose and I will be married 25 yrs this May our silver aniversary