Sorry all

[MercuryT]

Just a msg to say sorry to all fellow members.

I suffer from pretty major drug abuse since my Ex lied and took my daughter (no I didn't then) and made a fool of myself on here.

I'm sorry all and I make no excuses.

[Rallye Sport]

I respect an honest apology so welcome back.
Its up to you how you use the site.
For me its a release from every day life, I like to look at, learn about and see what others are doing with their cars. Sometimes I'm lucky enough to show others what I do with mine too.
Good luck and for the love of cars we all hope you can work through things.

[MercuryT]

I'm man enough to say sorry.

Embarrassing but that's my fault.

[MercuryT]

Originally Posted by Rallye Sport

I respect an honest apology so welcome back.
Its up to you how you use the site.
For me its a release from every day life, I like to look at, learn about and see what others are doing with their cars. Sometimes I'm lucky enough to show others what I do with mine too.
Good luck and for the love of cars we all hope you can work through things.

It's exactly how should be.

Unfortunately when high (nothing illegal) as I say silly things.

The Moderators have been fantastic to be honest. I'm in trouble and fair enough. If I'm banned I deserve it.

I can't guarantee I'll be around but I damn well want car lovers to be.

[MercuryT]

Kypez a top bloke and I did the wrong thing.

I'm trying to get better

[roddy1960]

It's called being human . There isn't one of us that hasn't made a mistake or two in our time and regretted it . God knows I have.

I hope you feel you can continue with AFF and the moderators will understand .

I'm sure they will because they're a great mob . We're living in tough times and not just because of the current sickness outbreak .Many other problems that chew us up too .

Just posted on another thread was a comment that we need to support each other . We do indeed . Good on ya mate .

[xxx000]

Very brave and honest of you to do this.

Lots of respect for your ability to recognise the issue

[11ford11]

That was a big step in the right direction keep it up and good luck

[kypez]

Originally Posted by MercuryT

Kypez a top bloke and I did the wrong thing.

I'm trying to get better

No no... Definitely not. Most of my mates think of me as something that rhyme with Punt.

Mate, good on you for posting and I'm glad you still have this forum available to you.

Always available on PM if you need a chat/vent.

[Syndrome]

Get well soon

[nuthin' fancy]

None of us are perfect. These are trying times, yours more trying than most.

Be kind to yourself and work up from there.

John

[98TLS]

As has been said not one of us is perfect,everyone makes mistakes (believe me ive made plenty) thing is to learn from em,your daughters a hellva good reason to get **** sorted,good on ya and good luck.

[NGN 351]

Good on you mate for choosing to recognise, acknowledge and admit your faults.

Keep choosing well, remember most things are recoverable !

Your current situation is not your final destiny...

I'm glad you're going through some things as it means your not stuck there !!!

[MercuryT]

For everyone's comments and support, I genuinely thank you very much.

I know I have major issues (again, no excuses and I'm fully accountable for my own behaviour), losing my child has destroyed me. I considered myself a proud and responsible Dad.

In this very difficult time please everyone not be like me and do wrong things to "cope", so stay safe and let's support each other as best we can.

Chris

[arronm]

You haven't lost your daughter, you just need to clean up and find a way to visit her. At the moment she is the most important thing.

[MercuryT]

Originally Posted by arronm

You haven't lost your daughter, you just need to clean up and find a way to visit her. At the moment she is the most important thing.

I never touched a drug when had her Aaron.

Can't happen anyway but thank you

[MercuryT]

Just a quick update all. Clean since OP and whilst it's been tough (withdrawals from Drink and Valium are rough) i'm serious on change.

Had a real estate agent at house today to value and pro pictures taken. I was lucky as they had a cancelled morning as market slowed so much.

Moving back in with my Parent's for a while so I'm not isolated anymore, and can help them too if possible. It is not a rushed decision, they've wanted this for a while.

I make stupid decisions when alone, when in company I seem a completely different person.

Thank you again to every single one of you once again. I don't expect responses at all, no need.

Chris

[Craig@AUDI]

Originally Posted by MercuryT

I make stupid decisions when alone and high, when in company I seem a completely different person mentally.

Close friend has similar issues, being around other certainly helps, guess we're all social creatures that need others around us to keep us on the level and positive.

Chin up Merc!

[five 7]

Originally Posted by MercuryT

Just a quick update all. Clean since OP and whilst it's been tough (withdrawals from Drink and Valium are rough) i'm serious on change.

Had a real estate agent at house today to value and pro pictures taken. I was lucky as they had a cancelled morning as market slowed so much.

Moving back in with my Parent's for a while so I'm not isolated anymore, and can help them too if possible. It is not a rushed decision, they've wanted this for a while.

I make stupid decisions when alone, when in company I seem a completely different person.

Thank you again to every single one of you once again. I don't expect responses at all, no need.

Chris

Hey Chris we got off on the wrong foot, i wish you all the best.
Mark.

[Vekgib]

It takes a big man to come onto an internet forum and apologise for being a goose. More power to ya for doing that.
I tried to send you a DM last week, but your profile said you weren't receiving.
I hope you're OK and heading in the right direction.
All the very best.

[janddbone]

All the best to you mate. Sing out if any of us can give you a hand.

[MITCHAY]

The first part of the process is to acknowledge you have a problem (any problem) and then you can work to improve on that. Best of luck to you, too many can't or won't but that is where you need to start.

[asagaai]

Originally Posted by arronm

You haven't lost your daughter, you just need to clean up and find a way to visit her. At the moment she is the most important thing.

This is a very good post.

For many years I had a difficult relationship with my elder daughter who scorned me, due to very complex psychiatric co-morbidities of another member of my family that I will not go into.

Had a few scotches a number of years ago late at night in front of a fire with my brother in law (he is English and is the splitting image of Boris Johnson) and he said hang in there- your daughter when she gets older will come to see the truth and that you have been the bedrock holding it together.

Now my older daughter views me differently, suddenly realises I work bluddy hard in a demanding job, am not a total looser, she constantly texts me, and likes sitting on the balcony with me having a red and jabbering away on a Friday evening with me.

In your case- hang in there, if you have been a good father, and continue to be, as best you can to your daughter even with the difficult times, it will turn around with time. Does your daughter have a phone so you can call/text etc.

Even if you are denied access that is not permanent- your daughter will turn 18. Just keep trying to be the best father for her in whatever way you are able and it will turn for you.

Good luck - I wish you the best.

[ford71V8]

So true ^^

[MercuryT]

Originally Posted by asagaai

In your case- hang in there, if you have been a good father, and continue to be, as best you can to your daughter even with the difficult times, it will turn around with time. Does your daughter have a phone so you can call/text etc.

Even if you are denied access that is not permanent- your daughter will turn 18. Just keep trying to be the best father for her in whatever way you are able and it will turn for you.

Good luck - I wish you the best.

Thanks to not just brilliant post (abbreviated - awesome it's worked out well eventually for you) above but all support, wishes, advice and experiences - have really helped me already see a future.

Just to answer the question - initially yes Court gave me access in person and phone, but every time I did and we'd go to park, pancakes etc and have laughs, I'd get a letter from her solicitor the next day saying my daughter was "so distressed" from my contact my Ex would keep her out of school for a week, take her to psychiatry "to cope" etc.

So i was advised under no circumstances to contact her as it's affecting her education, mental health etc.....all complete lies as we always had a great time, but that's the lengths my Ex went to cut me out completely for zero contact (aa she has remarried so.he is now Dad influence for her etc)

It's pretty sick i reckon but my Barrister said very common tactics used by women to get their children (and I genuinely respect women hugely, love my mum as great friend etc) .

I certainly don't hold any hard feelings to my daughter, as i know she is just being used "as a pawn" - in my Barrister's words. Hopefully one day after 18 I get that opportunity to reconnect like men like you have in time....that's excellent and encouraging to hear - I'm happy for you and others that get that end result.

[FTE217]

You got to always look at the bright side of light, Monty Python as most would know.
Mate you got a daughter what a treasure that is for you and I could understand how hard that is.
She's no1 priority in your life as has been mentioned.
Your goal is being ready when she does come around and that she will.
asagaai's is a good example.
Mine is observing my bro inlaw having gone through a ugly divorce some 5yrs ago where the ex wife poisoned their mid teen daughters against him and infact his entire family obviously that incl my wife and then even me.
It was absolute bollocks for knowing his family (obviously) they are one of those close nit ones that I feel his ex was very jealous of.
He didn't see his daughters for near on 4yrs much if at all under straining circumstances just wishing to express he loves them dearly and wants to be there for them.
They were really poisoned and still are towards all my inlaws, in a book it would be riverting reading for you'd just shake your head.
The eldest now is 20odd and the other finished Yr12 year before.
Well guess what, they have come around bit by bit - they've realised Dad is Dad and they are getting there and becoming family again.
Its will come mate, you've just got to ride it out and be ready no matter how long it takes - thats the best drug the world can buy !

[98TLS]

Originally Posted by MercuryT

Thanks to not just brilliant post (abbreviated - awesome it's worked out well eventually for you) above but all support, wishes, advice and experiences - have really helped me already see a future.

Just to answer the question - initially yes Court gave me access in person and phone, but every time I did and we'd go to park, pancakes etc and have laughs, I'd get a letter from her solicitor the next day saying my daughter was "so distressed" from my contact my Ex would keep her out of school for a week, take her to psychiatry "to cope" etc.

So i was advised under no circumstances to contact her as it's affecting her education, mental health etc.....all complete lies as we always had a great time, but that's the lengths my Ex went to cut me out completely for zero contact (aa she has remarried so.he is now Dad influence for her etc)

It's pretty sick i reckon but my Barrister said very common tactics used by women to get their children (and I genuinely respect women hugely, love my mum as great friend etc) .

I certainly don't hold any hard feelings to my daughter, as i know she is just being used "as a pawn" - in my Barrister's words. Hopefully one day after 18 I get that opportunity to reconnect like men like you have in time....that's excellent and encouraging to hear - I'm happy for you and others that get that end result.

Time generally sorts **** out at least in my experiences so far,long story short parents called it quits when i was six and for whatever reasons my old man made it his lifes work to fill my young head with all sorts of crap re my old mum,worked to be fair,doesnt take much to sway a six year old for many years even though it hurt me to do so i wouldnt have a bar of her and wasnt until at the age of 34 i went cap n hand so to speak and apologized,she gave me a hug and said yesterday doesnt matter pretty much,hang in there fella ignore the setbacks and bull**** and concentrate on the future.

[MercuryT]

Sorry guys and girls.

Clean as - but yeah.

Work warning etc.

All sympathy for me being silly I genuinely appreciate but more so awesome workers affected. So unfair.

Sorry.

Look after our Fords and yourselves.

[MercuryT]

Just thought I'd bring this up. I know not an auto thread but many are affected, especially at the moment.

I read today Lifeline have had 3 times the volume of calls in last few weeks or so.

Anyone see the Kyle Sandilands interview on 60 minutes?

Sure he can be funny at times but seriously what a deadset moron.

Making light of mental health and "pranking" I found (personally, as a sufferer) speaking offensive and disgraceful.

[MercuryT]

I just thought pretend crying as a pretend prank simply not on.

Then to say say on "twitter" keep your problems to yourself??

Reckless and highly dangerous advice.